annie321
9/7/2008 17:59 EST
I need advice from people living in Dhaka if possible. The story is a sad one and I am seeking this advice in the hope that I can receive reassurance or if not, that I can prevent a tragedy.
My daughter lived in Europe with a man from Bangladesh and gave birth to his daughter. After much violence she reported him to the police. He was arrested but she withdrew the charges. He was still deported as his papers were not in order. He professed to have converted from Islam to Christianity 3 years ago. She is now flying out to be with him in Dhaka, taking her baby and a child by a previous marriage. (They are not married) He has persuaded her to do this. My question is this. Will she and the children be safe? He says he is still practising his faith and going to a Christian church whilst livijng with his Muslim family in Dhaka. This does not sound like the truth to me. I fear he is tricking her into going. He says she will be ok but surely his family will not accept her?He says he is hoping to get out of the country on a fiance visa. I would be so grateful for a reply. My daughter and the children are going as soon as the visas are ready - in a few days probably. Thank you.
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SARAZ
9/20/2008 13:41 EST
I think any place would be a better and safer option than dhaka! sending your daughter with grandchildren...not a good idea!pls ask her to move on without him however difficult it may be...
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SARAZ
9/20/2008 13:42 EST
I think any place would be a better and safer option than dhaka! sending your daughter with grandchildren...not a good idea!pls ask her to move on without him however difficult it may be...
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bjbayer
10/16/2008 14:32 EST
Yikes! Just back from living/working in Dhaka. Your daughter will have little legal protection. The father, under Shia law, can take the child. BE VERY CAREFUL.
I have a good legal contact: Jurat M. Sharif, jurat_ms@yahoo.com and 880-171-4323550. Mention my name Bennet Bayer.
More if you need. Bennet at bayerbj@gmail.com.
Best of luck!
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Trueegyptian
11/30/2008 07:01 EST
Hi,
Sorry to be gloomy, but your daughter is in big trouble. Bangladeshis are amongst the most vicious and deceitful people in the world. Normally this mainly entails violence etc to each other, but she seems to enroled herself in their club
Islam, especially in a country like this, is not something which you just walk away from, if he had truly converted, then he would be in mortal danger from his own family amongst others.
I lived for four long years in Dhaka, and can safely say that with the possible exeption of Saud Arabia or Northern Pakistan, she could not be going to a worse place.
If she gets on that plane (hopefully not Biman), you are unlikely to seeher or your grandchildren again.
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BideshiBou
12/6/2008 05:45 EST
Wow I have never heard such bizarre description of Bangladesh in all my life. I am a foreigner married to a Bangladeshi and have been living here for 5 years.
Dhaka is not a festering hole of all things bad and evil. It is a big, dirty, noisy, congested city. But the people are amazingly friendly, especially to foreigners.
1) the majority of Bangladeshi Muslims are Sunni, not Shia. I think what bjbayer meant was Shari'a law. Yes, it is certainly true that under Muslim law the man is given custody of children unless he waives that right.
Divorces fall under Muslim law unless she can perhaps prove he has converted (Baptism certificate, etc).
She should seek legal assistance within the country and that is good that bjbayer has a contact already. The Embassies don't give recommendations. They may be able to intervene but they won't want to. Legal counsel both in Bangladesh and Europe would be advisable.
2) If the man has converted he is certainly not likely to be killed! (For goodness sakes what country are they talking about?) However his conversion is not likely to be accepted by his family and he will probably face a lot of pressure to deny the conversion.
Like all of humanity, some people can be cruel or deceitful. But believe me in no other place in the world have I seen such hospitality towards visitors, and especially white foreigners.
I know a lot of foreigners married to Bangladeshis and I have seen the spectrum of good marriages and bad, just like over the world. If your daughter is in a abusive relationship with this man then she would be in a bad situation whether she is in Dhaka or Europe.
As for the wild speculations of your daughter or grandchildren disappearing into a black hole believe me that will not happen. This is not "Not Without My Daughter" and this is not the Islamic Republic of Iran.
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Mesa
5/26/2009 01:28 EST
It is very sad. I am very much shameful for the Bangladeshi. Your daughter is nor safe here at all. Think twice before sending her here in Bangladesh.
May Allah helps her.
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Shams
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