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Habibty
  2/2/2016 22:16 EST

Okay let me try and make a long story short!
I met my Egyptian husband, Hamed, in March 2006 after 1 year of me travelling backwards and forwards every 3 months we got engaged with the blessing of his family. Hamed is the most wonderful, romantic man I have ever known and I love him more than anything. In April 2008 he gave me the biggest and best wedding I could ever imagine in Alexandria. We had a further wedding party in Sharm for our friends who could not be in Alex and a very romantic honeymoon. After 1 month we both came home to the UK. Our marriage is very happy, we very rarely disagree, I cook all his favourite Egyptian food, he helps with the household chores and treats me like his queen. I love his family like my own family and will do anything I can for them. Despite all of this when my husbands mother became ill 18 months ago things changed. We rushed out to Alexandria and he had to spend most of his time in the hospital with her which meant I had to remain in the apartment. This was not a problem for me, his mother needed him and as a loving wife I would do whatever was required to support him. When we returned to the UK he was very distant, detached and I struggled to get him to communicate with me. My heart ached for him, I knew he was teriffied of losing his mother. 12 months ago he had to go back again because of his mothers health, this time we agreed it would be best if he went alone as it would save him worrying about me and allow him to focus on Mum. While he was there he got engaged to the Egyptian woman his mother had chosen for him. I knew nothing about this. When he came back he told me I need some space to sort my head out and moved in with a male colleague from work. He called me every day and came to visit most days to tell me how he was a psychological mess and felt incapable of being the husband I deserved. My heart was aching because I missed my husband so much and because I could see a man who was in so much pain but I could not wave a magic wand and make everything okay for him. 6 months ago he went back to Egypt again, his mother was 'due to have an operation', he got married. I have not seen or spoken to him since, he has completely cut me out of his life. I don't know whether he is in the UK or in Alexandria. The last time I spoke to him he informed me he made this marriage for his mother, she told him it will give her the will to live if he marries from her choice. I told him because I love you I understand and I forgive you for breaking my heart now please sign the divorce papers and have your life with your Egyptian wife with my blessing. The son of a bitch has refused and then cut all contact with me. So here I am married without a husband!!! I wish I could say he was a bad husband when he was here but I can't. I tell this story for women to understand that no matter how much he loves you and how happy your marriage is the Egyptian mother will always be number 1 in his life. If you want your marriage to last it is his mothers heart you have to win. I don't even think his Egyptian wife knows she is a second wife I think she believes he has divorced me - I wish!

wafa
  2/3/2016 00:21 EST

Very sorry to hear your saga. You told your story very well. Your pain is very real and hopefully in time you can create a new full life for yourself.

Maybe not my place to say this however if I was you I'd take whatever action I could to separate myself permanently legally from this man and secure all my assets are in my name only and for myself.

"Hope" should not be held onto and you should never consider second chances should this man suddenly reappear.

You owe it to yourself to live a full and happy life.

Turn the page, end the chapter and start a new book.

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waasbusa
  2/3/2016 09:30 EST

What else is new. European and AMerican will never learn. 99 % of marriages to an Egyptian go down the drain. But when you tell these nitwits you are immediately accused of racism. I lived in Egypt many years and met only two couples that were genuinely happy. ANd they were marriages with either Bedouins or Coptic Chrisitians. So spare us your woes that you asked for yourself.

waasbusa
  2/3/2016 09:30 EST

What else is new. European and AMerican will never learn. 99 % of marriages to an Egyptian go down the drain. But when you tell these nitwits you are immediately accused of racism. I lived in Egypt many years and met only two couples that were genuinely happy. ANd they were marriages with either Bedouins or Coptic Chrisitians. So spare us your woes that you asked for yourself.

Habibty
  2/3/2016 14:40 EST

Oh Wafa I am over it there is no second chance for him, the trust has been broken and without trust there is no foundation for even friendship. My assets are secure and I am living my life with a spring in my step and a smile on my face. I posted my story as a word of caution for others not for sympathy. Sympathy is for victims I am not a victim I am a survivor :)

wafa
  2/3/2016 15:24 EST

Sounds you're a pretty together lady! CONGRATS!!

Survivor is GREAT! (Victim not so much)

All the BEST to you with the Rest of your WONDERFUL life!!! :) :) :)

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melissa1984
  2/3/2016 18:51 EST

It must have hurt like hell and hard to imagine what you have been through and it was a long relationship but good for you for being resilient and moving on. Hopefully your story will save someone out there a broken heart.

Habibty
  2/3/2016 22:29 EST

Melissa1984 I moved on because I spent enough time in Egypt with him to gain a good understanding of Egyptian people. Some Egyptian men are like adolescent boys that never grow up; they want to hang with their mates whether they are married or not. As long as they have a woman at home to cook for them, share their bed and bear them children they think they are men. For the women sadly they have no identity of their own they are the daughter of .... and then the wife of..... and then the mother of.... They cannot be self sufficient and without a husband and children they are looked down upon, they have no status and no one to take care of them financially. Egyptian men are for Egyptian women in my opinion because both will view their dysfunctional marriage as normal. I give him and his wife my blessing I just wish she was the only wife and not the second wife haha oh well only a few more years to wait and I can divorce him without his consent :)

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