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French-Indian couple: WHERE to live? WHERE to marry?

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keymi
  2/6/2014 11:45 EST

Hi everyone.
My fiancé is Indian, and I am French girl. Our union has been accepted from both our families. For some professional reasons, I am in the UK for my end of studies and I am going back to France within 2 weeks. And since 7 months, my darling and I are separated since he is working in India.

We are thinking about getting married this year or beginning of next year... but the big question is raised.. WHERE?
WHERE DO WE LIVE? WHERE DO WE MARRY..?

Where can he finds a job? Where can I find a job? Where an Indo-French couple can be accepted? We think of the language barrier. I do speak French, English and Spanish but my devoted speaks English and many local Indian languages. Do we choose a 3rd country? Do we choose India?

Is anyone in the same situation can tell us about his or her experience?

It would definitely help us thinking and making a choice.

Thank you so much in advance for your help !!!

AjayG
  2/12/2014 04:49 EST

Hi Keymi! sounds like a life full of adventutres ahead of you? Have you considered Pondicherry? It is considered the French Riviera of India and was under French Influence decades ago. Amazing beaches, warm wearther (it´s in the south-east coast) relaxed tolerant atmosphere... if you´ve seen "the Life of Pi" it was shot there, just to give you an idea of the landscape finding a right place and job can be tough... try Mitula, commonfloor, or property feast, they are some of the main sites for looking for flats or even housing accomodation if you´re passing by.

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bombayhomestay
  2/12/2014 09:16 EST

In today's time love vanishes in thin air if there is no money.

You have not said if he is from IT field and if so you should consider Bangalore/ Hyderabad which are good places to stay as well. You will need to adjust to Indian culture and the wishes of your in laws if your spouse is too emotional towards them.

dhanc
  2/17/2014 22:35 EST

Hi keymi

You should probably consider moving to Quebec, Canada which has French as the first language. Canada is a country favouring immigrants from all over the world. You should have no problem in settling if you find a good job to survive. I am not sure what are your qualifications but if you are in sectors which are in demand and proficiency in Fremch should give you an advantage in the settlement. Same thing is true for your would be husband. If he has good job market potential then he shd be able to immigrate from India to Canada.

There are some pros and cons like everything. Pros -It is easy for both of u to settle here. More eaier to settle anywhere in Canada than in India. No language for both. Cons- The time for immigration could be different though. The job market depending on your qualification and experience. Could be an issue even in India. If u need additional info please do not hesitate to contact me.

busybee
  3/5/2014 19:26 EST

Hi Keymi,

I am an Indian married to British Citizen. We went through really long journey of doing almost 2 years of long distance with meeting only once in 6 months for 2 weeks. We lived together for 6 months while planning for wedding and got married in India and later had ceremony in Italy (we thought it was romantic and easy access for his family to come) as we were not so keen to spend twice visa fees of £800 and instead we lived 18 months for New Zealand and now we are in UK after doing long visa process. Ofcourse we do need to think about long term where to live. One thing you would realize quickly and which I hadn't considered is that suddenly your parents and in laws seem to be getting old and they would also want to have a say in where you live.

I would like to say one thing as you are EU Citizen, this is sort of loophole and we realized when we were looking at our UK immigration. It is easier for EU Citizen to bring a spouse to UK then it is for British Citizen. You might have to work for 6 months in France before you can bring him to UK, provided you want to live in UK longer ??? Also generally there are talks of UK to separate from EU from time to time.

I think the best way to is to spend some time in both countries as it helps both of you to know the culture and understand each other better, know your travel preferences. Look at some travel brochures and visa procedures for both of you.

Let family get involved in wedding and so on but not overpower them your both decision where do you want to finally live. I think they say that when you have kid you have to be at one place but I am not sure how much of that stability one want in their life ? How much you like travelling ? How do you both see future of your kids and your ageing family ?

The most important thing in all this would be your strong relationship with each other and there would be outside influence. Different culture relationships aren't easy but they are great !

I wish you find country or place you can fall in love with and raise your family or while finding that place hope you can enjoy the journey of seeing the world.

Anaykalmekh
  4/4/2016 07:19 EST

Hi I want to know some information..
I'm also kind of Same situation than you..
If you see this message please contact me.
My email id- [email protected]
Please do contact

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