I get the impression you worked with Filipinos in a country OTHER than the Philippines? Having lived for five years with a Filipina in the US and having lived with another Filipina for another five years in the Philippines, I can say this.
There is a great difference between how a Philippino will act or behave in their own country compared to how they act when abroad.
You say you love the Philippino culture? What part? The bad food, the way they clean themselves after they defecate, the unremitting noise, the disrepect they have for human life, the incredible corruption especially in the police, the god-awful TV or the silly cinema they produce, the cheap products that abound here, the awful smells, the rampant pollution, the tendency to cheat foreigners, the distaste they have for foreigners behind smiling faces? Good luck my greenie, you will need a truckload of rabbits foot.
I do enjoy the weather here most times but not the biting bugs or dengue. I also like the lovemaking which is better than I can find at my age in my own country. But finding a genuinely authenticly good Filipina is your task and it can be done but the search is frought with possibilities of wrong turms. Probably the worst is that LOVE IS BLIND. So you have to complete your quest with impaired vision.

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Unfortunately what freetheirminds is true, tho some of it doesn't impact on your daily life.
Girls living abroad will be different than here, my wife in Korea dressed an acted totally different than she does now. In Korea she felt free of people judging her in her bikini etc.
Noise? Philippines is noisy no getting away from it they love loud exhausts on the stupid motorised shopping Tolley's, they love kareoke but have it so loud, chickens roosters dogs all their.e noisy. They are just noisy. I am used to it now. Food some good, mostly bad. Again you get used to it. You have tons careful here be respectful to others leave your temper at home, don't insult anyone, life is cheap, police force totally useless, and guns galore. Usually two guys on a motorcycle bang bang your dead. Luckily not so often but it happens.
Corruption from top to bottom,no getting away from that.
Girls? Bloody minefield. Your going to Angeles Sin city. Sex Capital of the Philippines. Meet a girl there dead easy, decent girl bloody nigh on Impossible.
As a foreigner you are viewed as rich by EVERYONE and rich pickings ,. You will have every sob story thrown at you you to relieve you of your money and you as a nice guy will probably fall for it. Even if you meet a really nice girl, her family might be full of gold diggers. Nearly every girls dream is to own a house and land and guess who they expect to pay for it? And on top of that you can't own it. I want my own business, who will finance it? MINEFIELD believe me.
So yes the weather is nice, yes the girls can be beautiful and very friendly and flirty. There are a lot of beautiful places to visit.
But come here and wear your heart on your sleeve, and your rich pickings. Philippines is not for the feint hearted, naiveity will cost you fortunes. You will no doubt meet someone who you think is the best thing since sliced bread, before you go back home or back to work you will buy or rent a lovely house for this girl, as soon as you leave family will move in or worse, her Filipino boyfriend.
Basically read this blog regularly, read all the articles ask questions. But for god's sake don't come here wearing rose tinted glasses, paradise it's not, not by a long chalk.

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Unfortunately what freetheirminds is true, tho some of it doesn't impact on your daily life.
Girls living abroad will be different than here, my wife in Korea dressed an acted totally different than she does now. In Korea she felt free of people judging her in her bikini etc.
Noise? Philippines is noisy no getting away from it they love loud exhausts on the stupid motorised shopping Tolley's, they love kareoke but have it so loud, chickens roosters dogs all their.e noisy. They are just noisy. I am used to it now. Food some good, mostly bad. Again you get used to it. You have tons careful here be respectful to others leave your temper at home, don't insult anyone, life is cheap, police force totally useless, and guns galore. Usually two guys on a motorcycle bang bang your dead. Luckily not so often but it happens.
Corruption from top to bottom,no getting away from that.
Girls? Bloody minefield. Your going to Angeles Sin city. Sex Capital of the Philippines. Meet a girl there dead easy, decent girl bloody nigh on Impossible.
As a foreigner you are viewed as rich by EVERYONE and rich pickings ,. You will have every sob story thrown at you you to relieve you of your money and you as a nice guy will probably fall for it. Even if you meet a really nice girl, her family might be full of gold diggers. Nearly every girls dream is to own a house and land and guess who they expect to pay for it? And on top of that you can't own it. I want my own business, who will finance it? MINEFIELD believe me.
So yes the weather is nice, yes the girls can be beautiful and very friendly and flirty. There are a lot of beautiful places to visit.
But come here and wear your heart on your sleeve, and your rich pickings. Philippines is not for the feint hearted, naiveity will cost you fortunes. You will no doubt meet someone who you think is the best thing since sliced bread, before you go back home or back to work you will buy or rent a lovely house for this girl, as soon as you leave family will move in or worse, her Filipino boyfriend.
Basically read this blog regularly, read all the articles ask questions. But for god's sake don't come here wearing rose tinted glasses, paradise it's not, not by a long chalk.

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Some here will tell you we are being negative and that not all girls are bad and they are right. But those of us who have a good woman with a good family are just lucky. Finding that good honest loyal non materialistic girl is where the problem is. Good luck anyway.

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Make sure you have a plan B in place and have one foot out the door and you'll be fine. Even if you think you've found true love.

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Hi Filipinos abroad are a lot different to Filipino people living in the Philippines, I also have worked with them and Nepalese and polish and Thais as for the culture you don't see the real Philippine culture abroad as someone else has said you really have to be very careful here when trying to find a good woman, sure it seems like a paradise with all the young women showing an interest in you just don't get sucked in by it or they will take your money and spit you out don't be in too much of a hurry to get hitched before you get to know them which can take years, as for pollution and noise in the cities pollution can be very bad and noisy , in the Provences you get more Roosters and dogs Barking and people lighting fires smoking you out of your house , in that regard they have little regard for neighbors and do have a selfish streak. But having said that if you take the time to look around you will find areas comparatively free from noise and diesel fumes

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The Filipino girls are not livestock that you just buy. They are humans and have feelings. It don't matter if a person goes to dating sites, bars or just walking along the streets, there are many girls in the Philippines to meet. Just like in the US, a person should take their time in a relationship and get to know someone before taking a leap. The girls in the US are more likely to play games and not be genuine. They are a lot more materialistic there. The Filipino girls are not spoiled and will be totally loyal. Learn the culture of the Philippines and that will be part of a relationship here.

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Something on these posts talks about not being rude. Filipinos can be rude on the street, they cut in front of you or a motorcycle will start up and take off in front without even bothering to look if somebody is walking by.

All in all I love the food, there are just a few foods I hold my cross up to.

We were in the market and two soot covered beggar boys stuck their hands in my face asking for money. I was in the middle of a transaction at a cashier and I feel if they are so rude I can be rude too. And I was VERY rude. My wife asked me not to do this as people going by see my rudeness and to her it is embarrassing. Lumayas ka sa harapan ko, putang anak.

I give to the disabled and blind, but not to beggar children or those dirty woman with drugged out babies.

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Draks, I concur. I think these people are very materialistic. It is just that they dont have the means to be so as much as they would like. They think nothing of asking you for a gift. They expect one, or at leadt ask for one to be brought home from your trip. When they do get something new, there is a damn good chance it is getting posted on Facebook for the world to see

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To say that a filipina will be loyal, that only is true if you find a good one, filipina can and do play games with men especially, fillable, love stricken foreign men.
I have a loyal sincere smart woman , I know seernai has but we are just lucky, thank god. If any man comes here and thinks that all filipina girls are sweet, loving, faithful girls they are in for a big shock. Theo is going to Angeles, where the chances of meeting a real scammer and lier are really really high.
I do have trust issues unfortunately I do admit that but not without good reason. And Philippines certainly has not helped my distrust in people.

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How much loyalty is there when your money runs out?

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I have said the same many times, Mr. Makati. Let all our money run out where we and our lady live and struggle like so many filipinos. Then we will see how many would be coming on here telling us how great their filipinas are

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Hi that depends on the woman also if you lay your cards on the table from the start a genuine lady will understand your not rich the rest will move on to easier pickings,

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If your money is likely to run out in any way shape or form don't come to the Philippines simple as that.
I didn't come here with much money really, I don't own anything in the UK so I can't lose much, but my wife is just not materialistic, that's not to say she doesn't want anything at all of course she does, but she knows if we can afford anything or not.
The poster is going to visit Angeles, I challenge any single man (straight) to go to Angeles and not meet a very beautiful young girl, who loves you more or less immediately, works in A bar because that's the only work she can get, but is not a bar girl of course, she is a dancer only, or waitress, works behind the bar, of course she doesn't have a bf, only you. Sound familiar? You can take a girl out of the bar, but you can't take the bar out of the girl. They see all men as a form of income that's it.

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ChaseB,

While living in the states with my Filipina wife, I saw no change in her attitude or personality. The only changes were in the form of the knowledge she acquired that allowed her to work and live in the states positively.
She had no wish to join in on local Filipino groups and embraced her experiences in the states while making a couple of friends with Filipinas married to Americans and living in our area.
Her very large family in the U.S. and Canada who we spent time with, still cooked Philippine dishes and celebrated with a mix of new and old traditions. I know of only one of the family who abandoned their family for a dive into materialism and life in the fast lane. The rest are simply now working Americans with family.

When you come, hopefully you will do so with eyes wide open and with the understanding that you will be seen by many as a rich mark and an opportunity. A lot of young ladies will tell you that you are a very handsome man and age means nothing. Of course age means nothing when your wallet is the object of their affection. Don't flash your cash or brag, Keep your finances private, don't tip heavily and don't offer to buy for everyone and offend no one, you will lose.
Drugs in you drink can happen to, with you waking up to find EVERYTHING you have with you has taken flight as well as your passport and you are now stuck in a very unforgiving landscape with little in the way of help available.

If your searching for a Filipina wife, are you looking for eye candy or a strong woman who will challenge you intellectually and keep you honest? If it's eye candy, rent a place on the beach and get a girlfriend or two and keep your wits about you. If it's a relationship, it takes time, honesty, compromise and a willingness to work for what it is you expect from her. Two way street. Ask questions, listen to the answers, wait awhile and ask the same questions again to see if the answers are consistent. Does she like baubles and beads and all things shiny and new that will soon empty your wallet? Or does she seem to take pleasure and joy in simply being in your company?

The tsunami of attention you receive at first will most likely not include the woman of your dreams but your lust. Watch how she interacts with others, who are her friends? They are a reflection of her. Meet her family, is her home clean or a pig sty? Filipino food can be delicious if your wife is a great cook as is mine, or is can taste horrid is your wife's cooking is also horrid. Can she drive? It may be helpful. Does she work, at what and what does she do with the money?

My wife and I had fun during our two year get to know each other dating and talking time and one thing we found fairly quickly is that we shared a twisted sense of humor and made each other laugh and smile. That continues to this day.

Good luck, be honest if you want honesty and let go of the ones with the red flags and listen to the voice that tells you that this pretty face isn't the one.

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I've heard tell of guys lining a bunch of them up on dating sites, getting a hotel room and have them all sit in that hotel lobby as he would interview each separately in his room, LOL.

Another guy here in Cebu, a 70+ guy has a wife and 3 girlfriends maybe it's only 2, and they all live together in a compound and again LOL.

Also for sure be careful about ladyboys. They are easy to spot because they exagerate their movements, way, way too much. There are an awful lot of them here. The US ain't even 1% of what they got here so be careful out there.

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Not really sure I believe the one about lining girls up in the lobby
Seem to have heard that one before.

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That's similar to the story about the guy who put an ad in the newspaper, for a wife.

The queue from his hotel room door reached all the way into the street... lol. Hotel management had to intervene.

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ChaseB, you might like to give some thoughts to a Cambodian girl. They are much more conservative and educated ones usually speak good English.

On balance they are a lot more honest.

Other than that, there are many similarities (noise).

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To be honest no matter where women come from there are good and bad in all countries

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draks, you are absolutely correct and I should have expanded on my comment. In my opinion, the girls in the US are more likely to play games and for sure it will happen any country. When looking for a companion, a person should take their time and be patient. Above all, take notice of red flags and don't force anything. I've been married to a wonderful Filipino girl for about 2 years. We got married after a 2 year relationship. I could not be happier but I did have a criteria for anyone for a life long companion. My wife fit the criteria perfectly.

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It's very important for everyone to understand the Philippine culture. A Filipina living abroad with no pressure from family or relatives to help support them would be the greatest mother and wife that would exist. Unfortunately if you are married to or dating a foreigner you are thought to have more access to finances. If they were brought up in a traditional family it's an accepted policy to help out family members, especially if they are the eldest. It's engrained deep in the culture. You can't change it. It makes it so much harder if the Filipina is living back in the Philippines. This is the reason why many Filipinas if they end up living in the Philippines do not want to live too close to family. They know they can't say no to family but at least they are smart enough to understand they don't want to live too close.

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Be prepared to support her family.

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Regarding Filipinos living abroad without pressure from family I found that they were under more pressure from family back home as the family back home did not understand things like council tax in the uk and TV Licence and the high cost of public transport and heating bills especially in the winter also the high cost of university fees in the UK, your right about it being ingrained in the culture that because you work abroad your very rich it is only when costs are shown to family back home that they begin to understand the reality of living in a western country that the grass is not always greener the other side of the fence

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I think you are right seernai in what you say. If the girl is living and working abroad and married to a foreigner the family will expect a lot more I think.
The original poster has not replied to anything for some while now so maybe he has made his decision already.

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Seenai,
I was referring to Filipinas living abroad who's family are either well off, older or no longer living so they are no longer requiring financial assistance. That person would be a great wife and mother.

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Ok Ace no problem I was just making a point ok

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Hi Draks Good Morning I was just speaking from a co workers experience the pressure they were under was horrendous

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I knew a filipino couple in London, they had been there more than 30 years put daughter through medical school.
When she first went to UK she was helping her parents and siblings, then they grew up and they were helping nieces and nephews, now they are still helping family there even she is getting fed up with the amount of money she has spent and continues to spend. She pays for girls to go through college and university they just go and get pregnant and stop studying or working, but still want money for their baby. Never ending story.

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I agree 100% with your assessment of life and the total LACK of culture in this country. Even though I have lived here for 13 years, I've yet to see any sign of culture.

PS: To the author of the OP. The spelling is Filipino. Women are generally referred to as Filipinas, but MS Word and most websites, including this one, does not recognize Filipina as being correctly spelled.

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In fairness to the guy, he said he was going to AC for 4 days to meet a friend & then to Palawan & Coron. The way he phrased "friend" I took him to (probably) mean a male friend who had located to AC.

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PS: To the author of the OP. The spelling is Filipino. Women are generally referred to as Filipinas, but MS Word and most websites, including this one, does not recognize Filipina as being correctly spelled.
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From educated elders' mouths in Philippines (the 3 lines below apply to a female):

"I live in the Philippines"
"I am a Filipina"
"I am Filipino"

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PS: To the author of the OP. The spelling is Filipino. Women are generally referred to as Filipinas, but MS Word and most websites, including this one, does not recognize Filipina as being correctly spelled.
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From educated elders' mouths in Philippines (the 3 lines below apply to a female):

"I live in the Philippines"
"I am a Filipina"
"I am Filipino"

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PS: To the author of the OP. The spelling is Filipino. Women are generally referred to as Filipinas, but MS Word and most websites, including this one, does not recognize Filipina as being correctly spelled.
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From educated elders' mouths in Philippines (the 3 lines below apply to a female):

"I live in the Philippines"
"I am a Filipina"
"I am Filipino"

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To Spruik:

I don't know why only half of y post appeared, but while yes I know everyone says "Filipina," I said that MS Word AND websites do not recognize the word as being properly spelled. I tell people, "My wife is a Filipino."

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I've seen a couple guys that have done it. In fact I knew a guy in his 90's in Makati who had an entire ledger book full of girls, their pictures and contact info. They would sit in the lobby of his condo while guys came and basically chose them from his "catalog."

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I was also reacting and informing in regard to "Philappino" and only added the aside about the fact that "Filipina," while commonly used is not recognized by spell checkers. At no time have I ever been a spell check programmer and I think it is about time that spelling is accepted; but to date it is not.

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I heard of the "line them up at the hotel lobby" deal from my girlfriend. She was invited to one of those by a foreigner. He told her straight up that he was going to be in town for a few days to meet potential mates and asked her if she would be there. Of course she told him where to go.
I've since had a guy tell me that he is still doing that. He does breakfast with one, lunch with another and dinner with yet another. If he doesn't like the one at breakfast, he ends it quickly and calls another for coffee, etc., to make better use of his time. I don't know how long he's been doing this but he said he still hasn't found one he feels he can settle down with though he visits some of the girls he's already met on different islands while at the same time he is still meeting other new ones. Just sounds so confusing and dangerous to me.
To each his own I guess.

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Don't believe everything you hear. Sounds like he wants to be an impressive stud.

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Not wanting to be a spelling nazi, but:

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That's the same as Pinoys/Pinays referring to me as "a Dutch".

I really have to correct them every time, as I am not "a Dutch".

Both the following two statements are correct:

I am Dutch (nationality)
I am a Dutchman (one of many)

Your wife is Filipino (nationality)
Your wife is a Filipina (female, one of many)

but:
Her husband is a Filipino (male)

If you are American, I guess it's easier... lol:

I am American (nationality)
I am an American (one of many)

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Spell checkers often allow you to add words that you know are spelt correctly so it should be no problem to add filipina. You also could add the correct spellings words like colour, socialise and enterprize whilst you at it.

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