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Sri Lanka: Need help/guidance for 3 month stay in Sri Lanka:

Hi, I am a US Citizen leaving in 5 days to go to Sri Lanka for 3 months. Unfortunately, my previous plans to find a place to stay and get oriented in Sri Lanka have fallen through. I am now on my own with little resources or money. I have a hotel the first 5 days I am there but need to secure something longer term during that time. I also have no idea how to get around Colombo, where I will be staying. I'm still looking very forward to this trip but any assistance or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Sri Lanka: Relationship with Sri Lankan:

You are a Sri Lankan guy? I have questions and was wondering if you would be willing to answer them. Well not that you can answer for someone else but I was involved with a Sri Lankan guy I met through work. I was working in the US and am American, he worked in Colombo. We remarkably lasted for 2 years although never able to meet in person. We had a strong connection, he called it a "soul bond" which I had never heard of. I know now what it means through my own experiences but he was afraid of it. I think it is amazing and beautiful to feel that connected to someone, especially never meeting in person. Most think I'm crazy and I'm sure many reading this will but I've reached the point that I simply do not care, I know what I feel and am strong in my beliefs about us. It took me a long time to get to that point but I am now. I find it interesting how many commented about Sri Lankan men not saying "I love you." He couldn't either but I never expected it or asked him. It didn't bother me because he also showed it in so many ways, that was good enough for me. He tried coming here once but his Visa was denied for no good reason and he couldn't handle it. Eventually he decided on his own to never try again I'm a fighter and very determined, I even offered to come there but he was too devastated by the Visa rejection. Neither of us were ever that close to another person before, it was the craziest thing how well we got along, like we had always been together and like old friends catching up, right from the start it was like that. But something happened. We got in a silly argument, I believe from the stress of not being able to be together. Is it possible it bothered him that much? I would like to learn more about the men in the culture because I think he wanted to be the man and come to me, but he couldn't. When I would go through hard times, it would bother him and I believe he felt helpless being so far away. He could never just understand the distance didn't bother me, I love him and just being there, email or phone was enough for me. From the argument, I got pretty angry. He was on a train with some friends going on a trip for his birthday celebration. That morning he was sweet, caring and unbelievably adorable, as he always was. But I said a swear word to him, it was wrong and a very stressful time, my mother had just been taken to the hospital by ambulance and it took me a day and a half to talk to him. Yes, I did need him, I was so afraid but it took that long. It was just like calling him a jerk or something, we'd been together 2 years and he knew my mouth, lol, it was not new. But he was acting so different, really different and "cool," maybe because of his friends being right there? He hurt me with his behavior and had never in those years treated me like that. It really hurt. When I said the swear word, he said that's it you crossed the line and then said, "GOOD BYE" and I have not heard from him since. It's been a long time, over a year but he won't reply to emails or calls and I stopped trying and gave up. But they way he was so quick to do that and never look back, it just does not make sense. It was so unlike him. He was a sweet, kind and caring person. I have no doubt he loved me but was scared and then discouraged but I have always felt he gave into the pressures from his friends and family about our cultural and age difference. I always suspected he never told them much about me. And I promise I am not fooling myself but I believe he stays away because he thinks it's better for me. He was always doing that, trying to protect me and push me away, afraid he would hurt me. Before anyone comments and says give it up to me, please don't. I cannot help how my heart feels and have tried moving on with my life as best I can. But my big problem is how after being so close for so long could he just leave so quickly and leave me with no proper explanation, no closure, nothing? Why would such a good man do something like that to someone he cared about? And especially why, that same morning was he so different than who he acted like on the train? Those are my questions, I guess. I am wondering if you have any information regarding the culture that could help me understand and find peace, since he refuses to give it to me. I am sure this is very long, so I do appreciate anyone who reads it. It's hard to put this all into a short post but those are the details I hope will help you get an idea of how close we were and out of no where, he had such an abrupt change and never looked back. Will his heart catch up to him? I believe it will, I believe in the power of true love and believe we have that but what could possibly cause him to do something to hurt me so much, it's just not who he is. I should mention, he is now 30 years old, just in case that helps. Thank you

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