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Sri Lanka: Relationship with Sri Lankan:

Hey 2souls39 I have been in a similar situation to you...we even got married and tried to hide that from his family for a while, but when the news got out all hell broke loose!! Many people in this culture have very set ideas about what is good for their family/friends future. It's generally thought that love marriages (as opposed to arranged marriages) will bring future discord within the family, or will not last. It's a culture where it's seen as acceptable to give advice on a person's personal life, and expect that advice to be followed. It may seem strange, but, what we may call ‘interference’ is actually a way of family and friends showing love. But what it means in reality is that for a person to do what they really want (if it is outside of the norms), they often have to keep it a secret from everyone (not just in love, but in careers, hobbies too). I would say that your guy is probably protecting your relationship from all the interfering and from his family and friends destroying his peace of mind and yours, and destroying the happiness he has found with you. Take it from me, it’s often best that way – the minute everyone knew my partner and I were married was really the end of our happiness, they destroyed his peace of mind, he felt he had to keep everyone happy, his mother screamed and shouted at me – I was treated like a witch. People pulled him from one side to the other, his friends telling him how could he do this to his mother…saying he had destroyed her happiness, he should have just married whoever she chose for him just to please her. I would have given anything to have just kept it a secret forever!! And I am saying this after 16 years of marriage! As for saying the word love, I guess it depends on the individual, but I tend to think that people in this culture tend to show love rather than say the word ‘love’. I hope what I’ve said helps you come to terms with the way things are and just go with the flow. If you are happy with him then just be happy for the moment. You don’t need his community to know to enjoy that happiness.

Sri Lanka: Moved to Sri Lanka from USA:

Hey nice to hear from you. Which part of Sri Lanka will you be in?

Sri Lanka: Setting up a business for a foreigner:

I've seen mention by other posters that it is possible to set up a business in Sri Lanka as a foreigner without having to invest £250,000 first. But I can't see the way to do it - can anyone recommend a chartered accountants or other firm which might help us do this? We have friends in Colombo who could help but they're not that savvy. Please can someone PM me with phone numbers I can call to speak to some one who can help.

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