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Flatshare with people hardly ever there. (1 BR; + shared LR, kitchen and bathroom).
We are planning got relocate to Rotterdam and ASH in Hague does not have space so I would really appreciate if someone can give me some guidance regarding American school in Rotterdam and International school in Hague.
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property in NetherlandsFriendly Dutch house for rent with four sleepingplaces, internet, two free bicycles and two gardens. The house is E 900 per month.
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Excellent article full of useful info.. Thanks!
laydeefox replied recently with:
Hi - are you renting or did you buy in Amstelveen? Can you advise realistically what it will cost for a 4 bed apartment in a nice area of Amstelveen? We currently live in a very affordable part of the UK with a detached 4 bed (I suspect we would get maybe 1000 euros if we rented it out. Can you tell me the things you really like about Amstelveen and on the other hand the not so good or struggles you have found please?
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Typically dutch house in De Zaan, closeby Amsterdam and Amstelveen for rent E 900 per month
Geha replied to the thread where to live in amstelveen? on the Netherlands forum:
ambato initially posted:
Hallo, we are about to move to Amsterdam. As the school is in the south of Amstelveen, we consider moving somewhere in Amstelveen. Has anybody experiences where there is a good place to live in Amstelveen e.g. considering that is close to the airport. Thanks in advance.
Geha replied most recently with:
Beloveds, my house is for rent for four months at least, but for 1 person ongoing; it is in a typically dutch village close to Amstelveen and Amsterdam in De Zaan: 8 minutes biking and then on the train and metro. It is available for 1 year for three people: E 900 plus gaz and electra for the whole house with 360 m2 garden and internet, etc. plus two bikes
RobertLagam replied most recently with:
Amstelveen is not a bad place to live. My family used to live there and we had a good time. Amstelveen is so close to Amsterdam that you'll be able to get in the city-center within 20 minutes.
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durant456 posted Immigration to Netherlands on the Netherlands forum:
Hey everyone, just looking for some information put into simplier terms, I've been reading on immigration from Canada to the Netherlands just out of curiosity really, most info I read is just a bit hard to understand so hoping someone can put it a little easier to me. I read that as a canadian I don't need an "mvv"? If it means anything I'm a 23 tear old male living in canada all my life, and I also have a great aunt that lives in holland. thanks for any info.
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RobertLagam replied to the thread The 'Dark Side' to Integration on the Netherlands forum:
DutchActually initially posted:
Hi forum! Full disclosure first: I am Dutch, I live in the Netherlands. So I am not an expat. I am married to an American. She has been living here for well over a year now, and she enjoys living here. By and large. Apparently, it is difficult for her to discuss with me why integrating here is so problematic for her. She accuses me of being too cavalier about the whole thing, and that I'm being too defensive when she feels otherized by the Dutch. I'll qualify that word below. Apparently, I'm entirely stuck in my opinion that it is quite easy to get settled, and find your footing, in the Netherlands. Yes, people will look at you when they hear an accent. Yes, people will ask you where you're from a thousand times and volunteer their experiences with your country, and not always in a subtle manner. Yes, people will strike up a conversation, simply based on you not being from here (including the inescapable "And when will you go back?" question). I've read The Undutchables, I get all of that. To me, as a Dutchman, that is mostly innocent, welcoming, understandably annoying, but not in any way vicious or otherist. Therefore, I cannot seem to address this issue without getting into a very mutually defensive fencing match with my wife. But I need to get this right. According to my wife, there is a much darker, much more insidious nature to the otherism in the Netherlands. No matter how well-known your culture is (and, let's face it, Americans are considered well-known), no matter how well you learn and/or speak the language (my wife hasn't done that yet), no matter how social or sociable you are (we both are not, really), there is a perceptible, not always hidden, undertone of otherism in Dutch society that is disconcerting, offputting, disheartening. It is my wife's contention that, no matter how well you integrate and adapt in the Netherlands, you will always be other, you will always be an outsider, always non-Dutch. People don't see you as a person, but as (in this case) an American person living here, and any conversation will immediately focus on that aspect. And it has a discriminating effect. It sets you apart, and not in an extraordinary way, but in an extraneous way, so to speak. I'd love to know more about this, but my wife keeps telling me that I get defensive and apologetic, that I downplay anything negative she brings to the table. And I probably do all of that, because I come from a background of 'If it ain't Dutch, it ain't much, and the Olympics aren't helping'. But I need to understand this, or it will break us. So, please tell me, and don't hold back. What is the dark side of life in the Netherlands as an expat? What is negative, insidious, disheartening about trying to fit in here? Is it really impossible to just be accepted into Dutch society, or even to just be considered 'Dutch enough not to be noticed for your otherness'? Or is an expat in the Netherlands always just that? An expat, an extra, an extraneous? Help me understand. Thank you. P.S. have a look at -- does that ring a bell?
RobertLagam replied most recently with:
"""" Hello, Unfortunately your wife is right! Im an expat (non-american) here and been living in NL for about 3 years now. Just like what your wife said, i do feel this 'other' treatment once in a while (although i speak reasonable dutch-not perfect!). Of course theyare nice to me but what they do, will just about it, they will just be nice! They wont consider/put you in their circle of friends. My husband friend who has an american girlfriend once told us, the dutch people are nice and friendly but they will not embrace you. Another friend of mine, been living here for about 10 years and speak good dutch. She still feels the same, the dutch will always have this 'wall' for the expats. I think what will make a different is in which part of NL you live. If you live in Amsterdam, you dont really have a problem. You can always make friends with other expats. But if you live in a small town, you need more effort and patience to adjust it. It is more challenges in a small town because some dutch people will go on talking in dutch although they know one of the listeners dont speak dutch. This happens to my friend (a canadian). Actually surprisingly even some dutch people (my brother in law and his wife-both dutch) dont feel fit with people from other province of NL. They both have lived in Maastricht for 8 years with good job but in the end decided to move back to Leiden because of the people there. So can you imagine if even dutch people can feel like that, how about the expats who dont speak dutch ? Personally I think you as her husband hold an important role to make her feel more comfortable living in NL. At least thats what I feel. I dont have many friends and my husband (a dutch) also not really a sociable person. But we both are so match, and he is the only reason I live here. The key is being understandble to each other and maybe in time when your wife feels down, you should be more understandable to her :) I wish you both good luck and just think like this: if you both think you can not stand to live without each other, im very sure you both can get through this problem! """" This is totally true. When you move out of the Economic/Political powerzone, (Amsterdam / Gooi Area) you will find many poor uneducated people with small-town values. I would compare Maastricht with the South in the United States. Close to Maastricht, there are gigantic trailer parks, and the people have traditionally been very poor. The are involved with Drugs trafficking, and they speak better German than Dutch. I would not bother making friends with the idiots living in Maastricht. Why would you?
DoubleDutch replied most recently with:
Interesting topic, which actually made me register on this site. Just to give you some background: I am Dutch as well, and my partner has the American nationality, even though she is originally Asian. She has lived most of her life in the US and Europe (France and UK) though. We both have children from our past relationships, who are all grown up and live by themselves already. Apart from her US passport she holds permanent citizenship of France, and since a couple of years she spends a good part of her time here with me in the Netherlands, even though she still kept her house, and business in France. Because of her business she travels a lot within Europe as well as to the Far East, and we often do that together. Having read the original post, I recognized some of this in our relationship too. In the beginning of our relationship I had a tendency to "defend" certain aspects of our society, and to criticize some aspects of the American society (especially politics and "commercialized religion", as I sometimes called it). She made clear to me that, no matter how much she started to love the Netherlands, this sometimes annoyed her. We talked about this often and I came to realize that we Dutch like to see ourselves as internationally oriented people, but that we see and judge the World very much through our own orange glasses. Maybe this is also embedded in our culture and history. As a post stamp sized country we sometimes seem to feel the urge to justify ourselves in the big wide world, especially towards the big guys of this world. We tend to express a sort of self-righteousness. I think this is because somewhere in the back of our mind we know that life in our country is not as perfect as we would like it to be. Our so-called open-mindedness is sometimes little more than a facade, and a good part of our countrymen and -women are not the global villagers that we like to pretend to be, I often hear that for foreign visitors he Netherlands is a very easy country to visit, with the majority of people speaking English to some extent, but thanks to our relkationship and our talks, I also have come to realize that this does not automatically mean that it is an easy society to live in for someone from abroad. Of course, there are many countries where people are much more reserved and closed to foreigners who live there, but our "open society" is only open to a certain extent. Especially where it comes to really integrating in the society, like becoming part of social life. It is only in the recent year or so, that my partner has started to feel like part of my family, even though I can say nobody really excluded her (quite the contrary actually), but yes of course there is the language, there is the different cultural network and there is the totally different way she grew up and lived her life before she ended up in "my network". And vice-versa. She from her side has done a lot to make herself feel at home here, and that helps too, but it is a slow process that will never be 100% complete. In the same way, I will also never feel completely part of her family in Asia, her past life in the States, or the social circle that she built up after having lived 10+ years in France. In the meantime, she does have her friends here, she does have her own social life too, and feels perfectly comfortable to go anywhere with public transportation or talk with anyone around here. We have been talking a lot about this and we both know that this process is a natural part of living together with each of us having our own backgrounds and history for 50 years or so, before we came to live together. And accepting this, seems to make things a lot easier for both of us. In our case I believe it has taken away the feeling of "exclusion", and instead it has made us both feel that this is somehow a journey together, making life only more interesting. Not only for her, for me too. And admittedly, we are lucky. There is her place in France where we spend time, and there is the travel for her business quite often, together or she alone, so there is a lot of variation in our life. So by the time that any negative feelings or frustration might start to kick in, we almost always know that in a couple of weeks or months we will be somewhere else for a while. The original poster used the word "otherized", and I believe that word is spot on. But I guess this is almost inevitable everywhere, if you are new to a society, and you never could be catching up completely because everyone brings his or her own background, history and perceptions along. You can just do whatever you can and are willing to do, to learn, immerse and build your own life in the new environment, and the new environment can be more or less open to make you feel part of it, but of course your past life is part of you both sides and I do not think that anyone should try to deny or ignore that part of oneself. When you accept and enjoy these differences, things get a lot easier, and it will make both feel more comfortable to keep learning new things about each other, not because it is so necessary to integrate but because it makes life of both, and the relationship, richer and more interesting, with all the ups and downs that come with it. But that's life, not only for expats but for everyone, don't you think so?
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RobertLagam replied to the thread What the better place to live in Rotterdam? on the Netherlands forum:
Adrianatorres initially posted:
I would greatly appreciate your help. I'm in a process to work in Rotterdam and if all goes well, I'm moving along with my two sons. I have been researching various sites but have no idea of distance from the center of Rotterdam, the nearest and best to live with kids and obviously well-priced places. Could you please, send me some tips? Thanks in advance,
RobertLagam replied most recently with:
I would avoid living near Rotterdam completely. The people are very rude there and don't speak proper Dutch. My mom used to work in Rotterdam and had a horrible experience.
DutchActually replied most recently with:
Don't forget to StreetView the hell out of these areas. Every inch is on Google Maps.
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