replied to the thread Advice needed for a single Mum please!
on the Sri Lanka forum:
I am a single Mother of two teenage kids and am looking for advice on where would be the safest place for my family and I to settle. I am hoping to open an African restaurant and need to be in a place where International high schools are relatively easy to get to and where accomodation is less expensive than other Asian countries.
I was born in Zimbabwe and my kids and I are German citizens. We are currently based in Bali, Indonesia and are looking to relocate elsewhere. I would really appreciate advice on safety issues and what problems one might come across when setting up a business in Sri Lanka. Thank-You so much for your attention and I look forward to your replies!
Many kind regards,
Thanks for the reply. Colombo and suburbs are suitable for your biz.
Schools are also available in these areas.
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Hello! Thanks so much for your reply! Much appreciated indeed! I have a girl and boy in their teens and need to be in a place where they will have a good education and where we can live fairly close to the school. Which cities can you recommend as I am quite flexible regarding location. Thanks so much again! Kind regards, Viona.
replied to the thread SIGN THE PETITION TO GET FREE INTERNET IN SRI LANKA
on the Sri Lanka forum on May 14, 2015:
Yes Robyn kennedy
Free internet access will provide more and new opportunities for people of Sri Lanka will have the following positive results
More Opportunities about food, clothing , shelter and healthcare will be available to the general public.
More Job and biz opportunities will also available.
technology transfer and sharing of indigenous knowledge will be possible at a greater magnitude..
Education , both formal and non formal will be available to the masses and online examinations will be done without any delay..
Egovernance infrastructure will be made and since the system target the entire population the costs will be minimal and affordable.
this is already happening in india and we must follow suit.
replied to the thread Renewable Energy in SL
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Hi all, I will be in Sri Lanka for June and would love to get in contacted with anyone in the renewable energy (commercial or NGO) sector... This is the industry I work in and it would be great to meet people in this line of work as I'm considering a move to Sri Lanka by the end of the year...
Can anyone help?
I like to meet you!
2 Acre land at Yatalamaththa in Galle district.
replied to the thread Relationship with Sri Lankan
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I am new here so please be patient! :P
I have met a lovely, wonderful man who is Sri Lankan, he only moved to England few years back. We are in a full blown relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend. This is first time I even meet a Sri Lankan person, and I know nothing of the country itself.
We been going out for about 6 months now, but knew each other as friends several years before that. But one problem is bothering him and I and I need advice on Sri Lankan culture and people please.
He is around early middle age, and I am a white British girl in her late 20's. He is very shy and gentle, very quiet, and he admitted this his first relationship, and he never felt like this before about anyone before me. He shows extreme love and care, but can never actually say "I love you", even when I told him I love him. Is that their culture?
But biggest problem is, he is so scared of his local community seeing us together, he not want anyone in our local area to know. He is happy for me to tell my parents, but he wants no one of his culture to know about us.
We are sexual too, and I do not THINK he married, as no wedding ring, but someone lives at his home that he not want them to know about us. If he is married, I know it must be an arranged marriage, bcoz he so UNHAPPY before he meet me, and he been starved of affection and sexual pleasure.
So you know, he is of the Tamil culture, and a Roman Catholic.
So I ask anyone who know out there, do Sri Lankan families conduct arranged marriages, and will they shun and cut off the person in the marriage if that person meets someone new, especially of a different race? He runs his own little shop, but does not own it, is he worried family will take away everything if they find out about us?
Many thanks for any help or advice given.
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Hello everyone....I am divorced European woman with kid, he is Sri lankan well educated single man (he lives in Lanka). Is this mission impossible? He is Muslim, I am Catholic (wasnt married in church). Thanks
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I am so sorry to hear of your experience. I can really feel your hurt and sympathise with you - it's not easy where there seems to be no real obstacles between you both and yet he is determined to go ahead with something that in all probability won't bring him the happiness he could have had with someone he'd met more naturally and had a genuine rapport with.
Often Sri and Lankan and other South Asian families are so deeply entrenched in their cultural ties that is very hard to develop an attachment to someone outside of that without destroying relationships with family and friends who don't understand why the person would choose someone who doesn't "get" their culture. To be brutally honest, it is generally easier being with someone who does have the same background, as there are often many many facets to "being" a Sri Lankan than you or I, as white Australian girls, could possibly imagine. There are certain things that are just "done" or "not done", seemingly without reasonable explanation to an outsider. It is extremely frustrating. You have happened upon a fairly traditional Sri Lankan - it is more common that they will marry within their own culture than not. I am married to a Sri Lankan whose mother initially tried to set him up with a few Sri Lankan girls, but he rejected the idea outright, and was the source of much concern to his family!!! Even now, after we have had a baby and been married for some time, he is probably still somewhat of the black sheep, being an engineer rather than a doctor like the rest of the family! and living in a little old house like a hippy with some white girl, a baby and many dogs!
I was fortunate in that he was not traditional in that sense but there have been some problems with his parents - not necessarily because he married me but more because he rejected his own culture. The marriage to me would have been more approved of had we done the big Sri Lankan wedding across a couple of days, with the engagement ceremony etc etc. However, we chose to get married at a registry office with very few people present, and I was already 3 months pregnant at the wedding - which definitely took some digesting by his family!
It is a very very big deal to lose everyone and everything you know - to chance on someone who it may or may not work out with. In Sri Lankan culture, you make the marriage work - you don't divorce if you are "growing apart" or any of the excuses that are commonly used in breakups in Western culture. He would be aware that you wouldn't necessarily have that ethos, so it would be a considerable jump for him to give everything up to be with you - risking the disapproval and life long censure of his family and connections and culture. If you two broke up it would be very hard for him to find someone within his own culture after his "experiment" with an Australian girl.
I am trying to be as honest as I can, although I have limited knowledge of Sri Lankan culture myself - I am only going on what I have seen personally. However, I hope it helps you understand what he is going through and why he is acting the way he is. There are unseen barriers to your relationship that are almost impossible to break.
In all truthfulness, I would prefer someone who was willing to chuck it all in for me, even if the risk to himself was great - even if it might not work out. Then you know that you are really valued. I don't believe he valued you enough to do this for you. Yes, there were cultural barriers, but nothing's too hard if someone loves you. So bear in mind that sometimes these things are used as an excuse to be with someone different for a short time, get that out of their system and then return to what is familiar and comfortable. I am not suggesting that that was what he did, but sometimes it's not as Romeo and Juliet as we feel it is.
Feel free to reply privately and I can give you my email if you want to talk further.
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I'm now working in Kandy city and since I'm here for almost 3 months I've got tired of my days without any activities.
Does anyone know any interesting activities in the city? Like a book club or sports activities, learning language(Spanish) etc. If you know something about this please let me know.
Thank you very much!
yes, it's one area in Stuttgart, Germany. I've lived there for my study and I just use it for my ID. :) How did you know it's German?
Are you a German or you also stayed in Germany?
Hi,Birkachwest sounds pretty much german ?