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VIHANGAX replied to the thread Relationship with Sri Lankan on the Sri Lanka forum:
2souls39 initially posted:
Hi all I am new here so please be patient! :P I have met a lovely, wonderful man who is Sri Lankan, he only moved to England few years back. We are in a full blown relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend. This is first time I even meet a Sri Lankan person, and I know nothing of the country itself. We been going out for about 6 months now, but knew each other as friends several years before that. But one problem is bothering him and I and I need advice on Sri Lankan culture and people please. He is around early middle age, and I am a white British girl in her late 20's. He is very shy and gentle, very quiet, and he admitted this his first relationship, and he never felt like this before about anyone before me. He shows extreme love and care, but can never actually say "I love you", even when I told him I love him. Is that their culture? But biggest problem is, he is so scared of his local community seeing us together, he not want anyone in our local area to know. He is happy for me to tell my parents, but he wants no one of his culture to know about us. We are sexual too, and I do not THINK he married, as no wedding ring, but someone lives at his home that he not want them to know about us. If he is married, I know it must be an arranged marriage, bcoz he so UNHAPPY before he meet me, and he been starved of affection and sexual pleasure. So you know, he is of the Tamil culture, and a Roman Catholic. So I ask anyone who know out there, do Sri Lankan families conduct arranged marriages, and will they shun and cut off the person in the marriage if that person meets someone new, especially of a different race? He runs his own little shop, but does not own it, is he worried family will take away everything if they find out about us? Many thanks for any help or advice given.
VIHANGAX replied 16 hours ago with:
Hi, I am sorry but i can understand your feelings because i also working with british people and when I join with then it's very difficult to understand their culture, they also not happy with things in my culture is very very difficult to understand here my boss is british she's living in sri lanka from 8 years you know still she can't understand sri lankan people, in this case we have different ways to think, but if you are love him please don't think anymore and don't try to understand those things it will be dangers for your loving life with him Thank you
Sundaybest replied on December 13, 2014 with:
I recently broke up with my Sri Lankan boyfriend who came here to study for the last couple of years. His mother is traditional also, I'm starting to think the mothers are the ones who are least flexible about other cultures dating their sons. His father is fairly supportive. Yes it is absolutely their culture. My boyfriend has never once told me he loves me but he does show me everyday through his actions. I figured the reason for this is he told me about the buddhist culture and not having attachments as it creates suffering in which he didn't want me to feel pain of something ever happened to him or us. I wanted to move over there but he said it's pretty extreme and doesn't think I could survive in that environment as I wouldn't be able to do the things I can in Australia in Sri Lanka. he too has been arranged with potential mates by his parents with several women a couple of times when he was in Sri Lanka. my ex told me in Sri Lanka whoever a person marries will not only represent your partner but the families name so it's a crucial factor, he said it himself Sri Lankans are unfortunately quiet judgemental. I would suggest you take a holiday to Sri Lanka to get a feel for the culture and what you are up against in terms of a commitment, it could make it less overwhelming all the best.
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VIHANGAX replied to the thread Wish to visit through out the Srilankan Island on the Sri Lanka forum:
sreejith2020 initially posted:
Dear friends I am an Indian age 41 male ,landed in Sri Lanka on job purpose. Staying alone in Srilanka and family in India. I wish to have a friend to my taste to share and even have trips far off in the islands specifically on saturdays , sundays and even on public holidays. In search of a good friend male or female.
VIHANGAX replied 16 hours ago with:
Hi, My name is viraj from Galle city in sri lanka, 24y old work as a manager in british council branch, I like to know more about you and make friendship with you, don't worry now you have male friend and here Female friends also contact me when you are here Mobile No. 0767700057
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Looking for long term rent for 5 bedrooms house ( furnished / unfurnished ) with a garden at a very residence area 500 meters away from beach and new tourist area - weligama
buh replied to the thread wants to rent out your room? on the Sri Lanka forum on December 11, 2014:
aqsa initially posted:
Hello Guys If you are renting out a room, you might want to check out PlaceMatch Asia. I found it to be very useful in finding good tenants and it was Free. Hope that helps :) Cheers,Aqsa
buh replied on December 11, 2014 with:
Thanks for great info! Carol Sta Monica, CA
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aqsa posted Are you looking for Apartment? on the Sri Lanka forum on December 11, 2014:
Hello Guys , If you are looking for a Apartment, have you tried PlaceMatch Asia? I found it to be very useful in finding my room and it was Free. All the best! Cheers,Aqsa Rao
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graemeb replied to the thread Job and costs on the Sri Lanka forum:
graemeb initially posted:
I am thinking about leaving the UK for a year to work in SL (IT specialist role). Questions are how easy is it to get a visa and what kind of salary could you survive on. I.e. 70k RS? Thank you
graemeb replied most recently with:
Hi awalgier. I spoke to someone at the UK embassy yesterday and roughly said: find a job, company applies, you apply to UK and then on arrival or after you get upgraded. Thank you
awalgier replied most recently with:
You need first to find an employer who will do the paperwork for you. For me it went smoothly.
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edga posted Visiteurs a Sri Lanka - 13 Dec 2014le on the Sri Lanka forum:
Sri Lanka - chants de Noël et réception le 13 décembre à Colombo. Bonjour! Je voudrais inviter jusqu'à environ 15 membres Expatexchange (Individuel, familles / Groupes) qui visitent Sri Lanka le 13 décembre 2014 pour nos chants de Noël annuels chantés par nos étudiants (nous sommes un Centre culturel et nous enseignons le français et nous organisons des activités culturelles à Colombo). Ce sera une belle occasion pour vous de rencontrer l'un l'autre et également rencontrer les Sri Lankais de tous les âges -Jeune, d'âge moyen et d'autres et d'échanger des idées, apprendre sur la culture sri lankaise, etc. Rejoindre aussi pour chanter quelques chants de Noël et avoir un verre de vin etc .. S'il vous plaît envoyez un courriel à pour obtenir des invitations gratuites.
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mountwiu replied to the thread Moving to Sri Lanka (a family with young kids) on the Sri Lanka forum:
julesfuller initially posted:
Hi I used to live in Sri Lanka in my 20s (single and working in media) but 15 years later I would like to return with my husband and 2 young children. I was wondering if anyone could help me with finding accommodation (house) in Galle area possibly and also what the score is with visas and working in Sri Lanka today? Thanks Julia
mountwiu replied most recently with:
I am a Sri Lankan, who has lived overseas for over 28 years, and now in Sri Lanka. I am happy to let a modern house in a beautiful location in a country town 13 Km away from Galle. Adjoining land has a newly built well maintained liberary. There are lot of English teaching opportunities in this area. If you are interested in moving to Sri Lankan suburb you may contact me.
buh replied most recently with:
Hi: Good luck finding the right spot in SR. That's the hardest part. I'd like to be next to water with lush f0liage and quiet surroundings. A charming town nearby wd b nice. Let us know how it goes. Best, Caroline (can anyone help me too??)
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Yohann replied to the thread Looking for used funiture in Galle on the Sri Lanka forum:
Arterm initially posted:
Hi, We just moved to a new house which is not fully furnished, so we are looking for used table, chairs, and so on. I tried to check local classifieds websites, but it seems they are not very popular here in Sri Lanka. Would you so kind to advise me any places where I can buy used items and save some cash? Thanks in advance and sorry for my English.
Yohann replied most recently with:
Hello! I'm in Kandy... I have a lot of new furnitures to sell (beds, sofa, TV, dining table) Some nice opportunities! Call me! Johann: 0779646978
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eve58 posted Take little dog to SL? on the Sri Lanka forum:
Hi, next year I will go to SL for 3 month or more, will it be ok to take my small dog with me if I have a passport and all necessary papers for it?
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