meriammokhtariwilliams
3/19/2016 17:03 EST
Hi everyone ? Around 2 years ago I started talking to a guy from Algeria… We’ve been talking on skype for around 4 hours every day since then. Last August I went to visit him in Algeria, and I loved it. His family are amazing and I really love the country too. It’s simple, but has a deep culture, something I feel I miss out on here in the UK. During my time there, we said our Nikah, as we are both devout Muslims and felt uncomfortable having a relationship outside of marriage. I went to visit him again in December, and once again, really enjoyed it. We now really want to legalise our marriage and are planning to do this next December. The plan is, to then have our Walima in August 2017. After this, we will move in together in Algeria (we’ve considered the UK but found it’s far too complicated). He says in a few years, he wants to live in a green country with green lands (somewhere in europe). I completely understand this as Algeria is very dry and I can see how you might get bored there (as I for some reason have gotten bored of the UK). But it would be really difficult for him to move to Europe. I could really do with some help on deciding where it’s best to move and how to get there. Thanks guys ?
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Siaeedabellal
4/18/2016 04:49 EST
Hi.
I live with my algerian husband in the uk... back then laws were easier, though circumstances were different. My husband HATES it here, though we seem to be trapped. My biggest problem was living with the in-laws. Mainly because i am a stubborn and independant person (havent lived with my parents since i was 16 by my own choice) though they are lovely it was hard to go from my own home and my own rules to some one elses home and their rules!
Is there any reason why you are putting off legalisation? You have to be married for 6 months before you can get proper visa to algeria (3 months) then IN algeria you can get an extension, this cant be done in the uk.
Most algerian men want to move to europe but then find the dream is not the reality. Algeria is very beautiful and does have green land! And i find there is more to do there than here, (shops stay open later) there is also a better family environment out there so if you are thinking about raising a family for me (and all my friends) algeria is the way to go. If your heart is set on moving out there i would talk to him about what is and isnt available here and write a "pro, con" list together.
With an eu referendum coming up there is no certanty that as a uk citizen you will be able to move to or enable him to get to another eu country!
Any way like i said we are trapped here for now as we cant find any where to live out there but really desperately want to move... i hope it works out for you.
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meriammokhtariwilliams
4/25/2016 06:59 EST
Hey :)
I have totally got to agree with you. My husdand wants to move to an green country, however, I know he'll hate the UK. I have spent a couple of weeks living with the in-laws and it was ok. Having said that, I haven't had a proper conversation with them yet as we don't speak the same language so I can see things easily changing in the future. If we decide to stay in Algeria long-term, we will buy our own place and move out.
The main reason for putting off legalisation is my parents. I am a revert and therefore my parents are not Muslim. They don't understand that in Islam, you can't have a relationship outside of marriage. For them, having a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is ok. They basically say that I am too young to get married. Next December I will be 19, going on 20 and we are hoping that Insha'Allah they will accept then. Plus, I think they're a little scared about the thought of me moving to a country they know little about (even though I have told them many good things, they want to see it for themselves, but (confusingly) they are too scared to visit). If we legalise the marriage in December, we will have been married around 7-8 months before I will go stay there.
Like you said, I think there is a lot more to do in Algeria than here in the UK and its also a lot more community and family orientated. Insha'Allah I would love to raise a family in Algeria as the majority of their family will be there as well as bringing them up in an Islamic environment. Algeria also seems to give kids more freedom than here in the UK.
I think writing the list is a great idea. We'll try it soon.
Insha'Allah everything works out for you too, and that you'll be able to move somewhere nice :)
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