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Habibty
Joined 2016
Posts: 3

8 years ago

My Mohammed is different - do you really think so?

8 years ago

Okay let me try and make a long story short!
I met my Egyptian husband, Hamed, in March 2006 after 1 year of me travelling backwards and forwards every 3 months we got engaged with the blessing of his family. Hamed is the most wonderful, romantic man I have ever known and I love him more than anything. In April 2008 he gave me the biggest and best wedding I could ever imagine in Alexandria. We had a further wedding party in Sharm for our friends who could not be in Alex and a very romantic honeymoon. After 1 month we both came home to the UK. Our marriage is very happy, we very rarely disagree, I cook all his favourite Egyptian food, he helps with the household chores and treats me like his queen. I love his family like my own family and will do anything I can for them. Despite all of this when my husbands mother became ill 18 months ago things changed. We rushed out to Alexandria and he had to spend most of his time in the hospital with her which meant I had to remain in the apartment. This was not a problem for me, his mother needed him and as a loving wife I would do whatever was required to support him. When we returned to the UK he was very distant, detached and I struggled to get him to communicate with me. My heart ached for him, I knew he was teriffied of losing his mother. 12 months ago he had to go back again because of his mothers health, this time we agreed it would be best if he went alone as it would save him worrying about me and allow him to focus on Mum. While he was there he got engaged to the Egyptian woman his mother had chosen for him. I knew nothing about this. When he came back he told me I need some space to sort my head out and moved in with a male colleague from work. He called me every day and came to visit most days to tell me how he was a psychological mess and felt incapable of being the husband I deserved. My heart was aching because I missed my husband so much and because I could see a man who was in so much pain but I could not wave a magic wand and make everything okay for him. 6 months ago he went back to Egypt again, his mother was 'due to have an operation', he got married. I have not seen or spoken to him since, he has completely cut me out of his life. I don't know whether he is in the UK or in Alexandria. The last time I spoke to him he informed me he made this marriage for his mother, she told him it will give her the will to live if he marries from her choice. I told him because I love you I understand and I forgive you for breaking my heart now please sign the divorce papers and have your life with your Egyptian wife with my blessing. The son of a bitch has refused and then cut all contact with me. So here I am married without a husband!!! I wish I could say he was a bad husband when he was here but I can't. I tell this story for women to understand that no matter how much he loves you and how happy your marriage is the Egyptian mother will always be number 1 in his life. If you want your marriage to last it is his mothers heart you have to win. I don't even think his Egyptian wife knows she is a second wife I think she believes he has divorced me - I wish!

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