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rebornzjz27
Joined 2019
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4 years ago

Tips for dating in China

4 years ago

Hello guys, My colleague Albert, who are orignially from America, have been livin in Beijing for almost 9 years. He speaks fluent Chinese and fit into the local culture pretty well. He even found his significant other here and married her. We discussed a lot about difference of relationship In China and US, and he gave me a good points to impress me. So I want to share it with you guys, who will be living in China for a long time and trying to find a lover. ?Might only applied to male lol?

Here are the six points for dating with Chinese people

1. Be Confident and Direct
This tip works for nearly all people, when you date someone, you should choose the locations and plan the date in advance. By handling the details, you’ll put your partner at ease and show her that you are a man that can take care of her and in the future the family that you’ll build together. Which sedge ways into our next tip.

2. Can you accept serious conversations on the first few dates?
Discussions for future plans for events like weddings and meeting the parents happen sooner in Asia and this timeframe is one of the most significant cultural differences between western and eastern singles. For many from the United States, these conversations might not come up for months or until you are a “serious couple,” but in Asia, chances are that you’ll be facing these questions within a few dates.
If you can be accepting and understand that in Asia, especially in the late 20s, dating is a path to marriage. You’ll show your partner that you know not only her culture, but that you are willing to commit to being with her and her family.

3. Respect your Girlfriend’s Parents
For some of you guys, this point might be too serious and far. But this is critial in China. Parents are very influential in their children’s lives. Often if a mother disagrees with her daughter’s choice in a boyfriend, her daughter will break off the relationship. This all ties in with the Chinese concept of Xiao Xun (Filial Piety) and is hard to fully understand until you have been in a relationship with a Chinese single.

4. Learn to Take Good Photos
Chinese society is very social, and many Chinese singles will have accounts on services such as WeChat and Weibo, which are similar to Facebook Messenger and Twitter for those of us outside of China. If you learn the basic principles of taking great photos, you’ll be able to help your partner create popular posts for her social media accounts, and this can be appreciated.

5. Be Generous with Money
The topic of money is a taboo subject for many relationships. However, considering how serious relationships with Chinese singles can become, it’s essential to explain how finances are viewed in China.

6. Social APPS
I know for some of you guys, it is hard to expand your social circle when you just come to a strange city.
Do feel shy to use online dating app. But I dont recommend using Tinder or Match If you want to really fit into the local culture. So, most the Chinese using like MoMo and TanTan, Hitup, and OE Match are very popular. But obivously you have to know a little bit Chinese. Don't feel shy to use it Cuz if you are living in a big city like Beijing & Shanghai, some people can speak little English as well.

Hope it Helps

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