10 Cultural Faux Pas to Avoid While Living in Indonesia

Living in a new country can be challenging, especially when it comes to understanding and adapting to new cultural norms. Indonesia, with its diverse cultures and traditions, is no exception. Here are ten tips to help expats avoid common cultural faux pas and better integrate into Indonesian society.

1. Understand the Concept of 'Bapak' and 'Ibu'

In Indonesia, the terms 'Bapak' (father) and 'Ibu' (mother) are used to address older individuals as a sign of respect. Using these terms correctly is essential. For instance, you might address a older male colleague as 'Bapak John' instead of just 'John'. Failure to do so might be perceived as disrespectful.

2. Dress Modestly

Indonesia is predominantly Muslim and conservative in dress. To avoid unwanted attention, dress modestly. For women, this means covering shoulders and knees. Men should also avoid overly casual or revealing clothing. For example, wearing shorts in a mosque or official building is generally frowned upon.

3. Use Both Hands

When giving or receiving items, use both hands. This shows respect and humility. Using only one hand, especially the left, can be seen as rude. For instance, when giving a business card, always use both hands.

4. Respect Mealtimes

Indonesians take their meals seriously. It's considered rude to walk in front of someone who is eating. If you must pass, it's polite to say 'permisi' (excuse me) and slightly bow.

5. Be Punctual, but Expect Delays

While Indonesians value punctuality, they also practice 'jam karet' or 'rubber time', meaning schedules are flexible. While you should always arrive on time, don't be surprised if meetings or events start late.

6. Avoid Public Displays of Affection

PDAs are generally frowned upon in Indonesia. Holding hands is usually acceptable, but kissing or hugging in public can make locals uncomfortable.

7. Learn Basic Bahasa Indonesia

While many Indonesians speak English, learning basic Bahasa Indonesia can help build relationships and show respect for the local culture. A simple 'selamat pagi' (good morning) can go a long way.

8. Respect Religious Customs

Indonesia is home to six officially recognized religions. Respecting these customs is crucial. For example, during Ramadan, avoid eating or drinking in public during fasting hours.

9. Avoid Pointing

Pointing with the index finger is considered rude in Indonesia. Instead, use an open hand with the palm facing down to gesture towards something.

10. Be Patient and Smile

Indonesians value patience and harmony. Losing your temper or showing frustration is seen as disrespectful. Instead, practice 'sabar' (patience) and smile. A friendly smile can go a long way in bridging cultural gaps.

We'd love to hear about your experiences in Indonesia. Share your stories and tips on avoiding cultural faux pas on the Expat Exchange's Indonesia forum.

Expats Confess Their Cultural Faux Pas in Indonesia

"It is important to be mindful of cultural etiquette when visiting a foreign country such as Indonesia. It is important to be respectful of the local customs and remain open-minded to their traditions. It is best to avoid any public displays of affection, such as kissing, hugging, or hand-holding. Refrain from making negative remarks about the country or its culture, as this can be perceived as rude and insulting. Refrain from wearing revealing clothing, as it can be seen as disrespectful. It is also important to remove one’s shoes when entering religious sites like mosques or temples and to avoid eating with one's left hand. Lastly, it is also important to be mindful of the fact that Indonesians tend to use last names to indicate respect," commented an expat living in Indonesia.