10 Cultural Faux Pas to Avoid While Living in Philippines

Living in the Philippines can be a rewarding experience, but it's essential to understand the local culture to avoid any faux pas. Here are ten tips to help expats navigate the Philippine cultural landscape.

1. Understand the Concept of "Pakikisama"

Pakikisama is a Filipino value that emphasizes maintaining harmonious relationships and avoiding conflict. It's essential to be tactful and avoid public criticism or confrontation. For instance, instead of saying "no" directly, try saying "maybe" or "I'll think about it."

2. Respect for Elders is Paramount

Filipinos highly respect their elders. When addressing someone older, use the terms "po" and "opo" for yes, and "hindi po" for no. For example, when speaking to an elder, you might say, "Salamat po" (Thank you) instead of just "Salamat."

3. Punctuality is Relative

Filipinos have a flexible approach to time, often referred to as "Filipino time." While punctuality is appreciated, social events often start later than scheduled. However, business meetings should start on time.

4. Dress Modestly

The Philippines is a predominantly Catholic country, and modesty is valued. Avoid wearing revealing clothing, especially when visiting religious sites or rural areas. For instance, when visiting a church, cover your shoulders and knees.

5. Learn Basic Filipino Phrases

While many Filipinos speak English, learning a few basic phrases in Filipino can show respect and eagerness to integrate. Start with "Kumusta" (How are you?) and "Mabuhay" (Cheers/Long live).

6. Avoid Public Displays of Affection

PDAs are generally frowned upon in the Philippines. Holding hands is usually acceptable, but kissing or hugging in public may be considered inappropriate.

7. Be Aware of Superstitions

Filipinos have many superstitions. For example, avoid sweeping at night, as it's believed to bring bad luck. Respect these beliefs, even if you don't share them.

8. Don't Refuse Food

Food is a significant part of Filipino culture. If offered food, it's polite to accept. If you're full, try a small portion. Refusing may be considered rude.

9. Understand the Importance of Family

Family is the core of Filipino society. It's not uncommon for extended families to live together. Be respectful and understanding of family dynamics.

10. Be Patient and Adaptable

Life in the Philippines can be unpredictable. Power outages, traffic jams, and sudden changes of plans are common. Stay patient and adaptable to these situations.

We encourage you to share your experiences and ask questions on Expat Exchange's Philippines forum. Hearing from others can provide valuable insights and help you navigate the cultural nuances of the Philippines.

Expats Confess Their Cultural Faux Pas in Philippines

"1. I had my "what the crap am I doing in this country?!" moment in the middle of a small mall in a rural province, including full-on sobs. That was an interesting moment of my life. *ahem* 2. I have gotten in trouble over food before. I *hate* fish and seafood, and in a country where the people both eat a lot of those foods AND like to feed other people, I know I have caused offense by refusing to try certain dishes. At this point, I claim it's an allergy and people aren't offended when I say no. If you do try something, never, NEVER insult it or insinuate that you don't like it. Even if it is cake with cheese on top. 3. Once, I got so out-of-my-mind frustrated with an employee in a store that I started yelling at him. I very, very rarely ever get to the point of yelling. It's happened maybe twice before this story. But it was a very frustrating situation, and getting that point would have been understood in the US. Here, if you get to that point, you can instantly see that the person you are yelling at has lost all respect for you. You are acting like a child and you've given them permission to completely ignore you at that point. The more frustrated you are, the more polite you need to get if you expect to get anything done. 4. All of that said, the most embarrassing series of events I ever witnessed was when we went away with 3 other American couples for a weekend. Two of the other ladies decided they didn't like the music playing in the seaside restaurant where we were having dinner, so they went over and plugged in an ipod to the sound system and just took it over. The staff didn't know what to do, so they just let them do it, but the quality of the service we received from that moment forth was awful. Later, we went on a boat ride over the ocean and up a river a little ways to see the stars and some fireflies and the whole time, these people were filling the beautiful night with loud insults about the Philippines and jokes about poop like they were 12 year-olds. I don't know what they were thinking. If your behavior would brand you as a self-centered moron in your home country, then the fact that you act that way in a foreign country and think it's ok because you are paying the people around you or you assume they can't understand what you are saying makes you a complete and total ingrate. Don't do those things," commented an expat living in Alabang.

"One thing never ever mentioned is the Mal de Ojo supersition that YOU, as a stranger or a visitor, unsuspectingly placed a hex or evil eye to mainly a child or even an adult. As having been raised in tbe West, it is so easy to praise or coochie coo a child you meet, but do not automatically touch/pat the head/hug/even pay too much attention, etc unless the accompanying person offers the child or self for you to do so. If not, if that child or adult get sick soon after, it will be attributed to the evil eye placed on the subject, albeit unknowingly. I've had people calling me to stop by and put my saliva on the tummy or forehead of the afflicted person. I don't come across this from Westernized Filipinos but I've heard from others it may even be a superstition that can be heard from affluent people from MetroManila," said an expat in Philippines.

"It is important to respect local customs and culture when visiting the Philippines. As such, avoid making any negative comments about the culture, customs, or religious beliefs of the Filipino people. Additionally, be mindful when shaking hands when meeting someone, as the handshake may be accompanied by a light bow, a sign of respect. It is also critical to dress is a respectful manner, particularly when visiting religious sites; cover your shoulders and legs, and refrain from wearing any clothing with offensive slogans or images. Furthermore, use your right hand when giving or receiving items from local people; using your left hand is considered impolite. Finally, avoid discussing sensitive political topics with strangers, as such conversations can lead to misunderstandings," remarked one expat who made the move to Philippines.