I am a 70-year-old black retired military veteran. I am also retired from the government and a disabled veteran, also drawing social security. My total monthly income is $8,500.00 US dollars. I am a widower who has spent time in the US, Vietnam, Philippines, Japan, Korea, Okinawa, and Taiwan. I now am looking to spend my remaining years in the Philippines with a sweet, beautiful, educated and you (25-50 year-old) lady. I am looking at either Cebu or Makati. I want someone I can trust and enjoy. I will do the same for her. Marriage is optional. I have been read your site for a long time as well as others. Is this possible without being taken advantage of?
Retiredtwice The youngest I would aim for is (1/2 your age + 7 years) 42 year old. You can get wiggle room on that age too. You are going to be swarmed. $8500 p/mo. US! OMG. There are speed dating groups which is a good multiple choice activity. Get yourself settled into a nice condo, retirement visa and car. Take your time. I found the provincial ladies more true than the city slickers. One friend suggested I park myself in the student cafeteria at a nursing school university at noon hour for lunch. Whoever you choose, their family will be on you. If they are wealthy, not a problem. I chose someone who’s parents had passed away. NEVER REVEAL YOUR PENSION INCOME TO ANYONE.
retired twice - go under the radar , the RP is a whole other show. Flash 8.5K around some side of towns and your going to get set up !
Walk softly , and eyes in the back of your head . Drive a smaller car, show little flash and you enjoy this wonderful country and survive !! NEVER , let the locals or others what you earn ...EVER ...... its always " I earn a small pension , just gets me by with some comforts ...."
I believe it is highly possible. Look for a woman that's older than 40ish and doesn't live with her kids, doesn't need your income, and possibly lives in a different location them her family or is willing to move away from them. Also don't ever start giving her or her family money no matter how nice a guy you are or how badly you want to help, they'll always expect more and more. Don't tell them how much you make because you are a rich man, lol, truly you have things more than you'll need. Good luck brother you'll do great. Maybe meet somebody on line and don't get caught up in the young and beautiful
Retired Twice: Yes you can live very well on your income. Heck you would be doing better than most of my retired friends back home in Iowa. Two words of advice here. 1. Tell no one not even fellow expats what your monthly income is. 2. With the ladies you will have a wonderland of choices. Just go slow and carefully. If something does not add up it probably never will.
Retiredtwice Just like to add that Filipina’s look much younger often than their biological age. Women in their 40’s can be quite beautiful. I have seen women in their mid to late 50’s that have gorgeous figures and beautiful smiles. My wife came from a very poor family and her parents passed away a long time ago. She handles all financial requests from family (10 siblings and many nieces and nephews), friends and neighbours with a “no”. No one bothers to ask anymore. But you don’t want your mother in-law or father in-law running your life. I have a Canadian friend who buys rice growing land for his father in-law and makes a tidy profit on it. At 70, you didn’t get to where you are without good judgement. You’re in for a treat!
I agree that meeting an older lady is often preferred. Whether or not she has children should not be a game changer. A lot of good women are single mothers. Also I completely disagree with the advice on not helping her family. This is simply not realistic. When you marry a Filipina you are basically marrying her family. You will be expected to help out in times of need. Simply do so based on your financial situation. To each his own but let’s be realistic when giving out advice.
Please listen about the money. Your monthly at today's exchange rate comes out to around 444000 peso. To give you a benchmark I found the following: The chief of the Armed Forces of the Philippines and the Philippine National Police, who both have a current base pay of 67,500, will receive P121,143 monthly in 2018 and P149,785 in 2019."
Take heed of the advice given, so many older guys come here fall for a girl very quickly, and then get ripped off systematically by her and her family. Don't rush into ANYTHING here especially women, I am older my wife is 37 years younger, been married 9 years. But if anything happened between us I would not bother trying again. Been here 10 years visited for 15 years, I would have trouble trusting a woman here. Seen way too many men fall by the wayside here. Take your time with everything. The first thing a girl/woman will say to you is buy a house, don't waste money renting, but of course she will own the house, not you. We should start a business, you pay all the start up costs, and she has no business acumen whatsoever, then the family all want freebies, and oh yes can you help my cousin to start a business, help my aunt she needs an operation, oh look my poor nieces and nephews can't afford to go to school, etc etc etc. Honestly it's a bloody minefield here. You will meet older women, then much younger women, what should you choose this older shapeless kinda fat woman? or this much younger slim, sexy looking beauty. Difficult choice? As said before, don't flash the cash, don't tell ANYONE how much money you have, or earn, certainly don't spoil a woman with cash and gifts. I think your in for a roller coaster ride. Older men are a favourite catch, usually got pensions and life savings I struck lucky, after being here many years, but was luck more than judgement. Be very very careful, once you are on the merry-go-round it's very difficult to get off. I really do wish you luck, and like me find the diamond in the rough.
I met my wife in 07, spent a month here, couldn't get back till 2010, lived with her till 2014 when i had a stroke and returned to states, on SS Disability now, all recovered now and as soon as i sdll my house i am moving back to CDO (Cagayan De Oro). We talk to each other many hours each day ! Thank GOD for the internet. We Actually have the same Birthday, Sept 25, although she is 12 years younger than me. She is Quite educated with a degree in Intl Business, She runs HR depts with 3000 employees, and also does Logistics and Accounting. She has ALWAYS had real good jobs! A real catch. I talked to many before I met her, some say they love you after like just a week. others starting asking for money for family members that supposedly are in the hospital. So YES you have to be careful. I just got very lucky to find her! We get along great, especially when we were living together. I can't wait to get back to her!
draks- very good advise for men coming here /. They think they can out-wit a 20 something Filipina with the long-con game on her mind ... NOT a chance ! Men be very careful of who you date and run with ! You are playing in a whole other league . Take your time , get references from friends re- what families are good and solid in community ect ..... reference like hell ! Also get a PI / IT expert ( spend 200 dollars if you serious and want to date the gal ) and see what her online accounts are like - social media exposes much under aliases
Thanks to all for your replies and words of wisdom. Understanding the problems and possible bad situations that I could get myself into, I am also searching for a place with a good veterans population, a place for one who is a city boy (San Francisco) and a place where I am not as readily taken advantage of. As stated I have been to numerous Asian countries but this s my first choice. At my age I have experienced a lot, but now desire to enjoy life without problems or issues. If a lady can accept me and know that I will take care of her in life and death, I will do likewise for her in life and not for every family member who pops up. That is one of my reasons for looking at coming there. Keep the good comments coming.
The universal rules between men and women don't really change all that much and I know with your experience you understand. Just communicate the message you shared with us clearly with the woman, take it slow, and perhaps avoid marriage altogether unless you feel certain.
This turned into a longer post than anticipated, but bare with me. Here is what I would do with the OP’s bank. I would not move to Makati. You will be targeted as a wealthy guy more than you already will. I would not keep a harem of women. People will know what is going on and it will spell trouble. I know a couple situations that did not turn out well. One was deservedly deported for visa violation and the other couldn’t find a decent woman. He was labeled a “Chix Boy”. That’s bad enough for a Filipino man. It is far worse for a foreigner. As a foreigner, get used to being judged harsher than locals for everything. Get online and find someone you think is interesting according to her profile. That guarantees nothing, but gives you some foundation and a starting point. In your profile, make it explicitly clear that you aren’t wealthy and you can not and will not take care of her family. That can change as you wish once you know she is the one. But DO NOT depend on her emails or Skype to determine her worth or love. If she says she loves you before you meet, get rid of her. She’s likely damaged goods. You have to spend time together. You need to see how emotionally stable she is toward you in person. I was online for a year and a half with a woman. We talked for hours and hours everyday. To this day, she is still one of the smartest women I dated here or in the U.S.. That includes a doctor, biologist, and medical technologist. She was a teacher. Within three days of being in the country with her, I knew there was going to be trouble. Within a month I split from her. She was an emotional wreck away from her computer. If anyone I dated had split personalities, it was her. Behind her computer she was funny, colorful, and wicked smart. In person, she was totally distrustful, totally controlling, and jealous beyond comprehension. Just as her sister was toward her husband and the mother toward the father. Tell the one you meet you are a small pensioner and stick with it. Move here and find a very cheap place to live. Maybe even a little rundown, but clean. Flash your money and you will be their/her target. Listen to her hints. Oftentimes they don’t come right out and ask for money. They talk about how hard it is for her parents. How difficult it is paying college, paying bills, or how little their job pays. Those are likely all cues and red flags to game your money. It is a common approach here. Something else they like to do is say they love you soon after meeting. This is no lie, the record for I Love You’s is Day 2. It was the next day after meeting the doctor I met online. I knew then this was not going to work. Within two months, she had us planned to get married, have kids, and travel the world while she worked for Doctors Without Borders after she obtained her Ob/Gyn license. I broke it off on the third month. I would strongly advise you to court her for months before sex. Keep that at arm’s length while with her everyday and soon, if you are smart enough to pay attention, all of her quirks will stare holes through you. When you aren’t having sex, you can think straighter, for the most part, and not be manipulated by your own cognitive dissonance as you justify in your mind her shortcomings because she’s ripping you up in bed. Finally, pay very close attention to her parents and siblings. Especially her parents. Does the mom dominate the father? If so, you can damn well expect her to be the same toward you. Are they loving, attentive, and peaceful toward each other?does she talk about their conflicts. If she doesn't, then ask her about them in a casual kind of way that does not seem imposing or intrusive to her. What is her relationship with her father? Loving? Strained? Does she talk lovingly about her relationship with her parents growing up? If not, I would bet she has residual tendencies she will carry into your relationship with you. What is her relationship with siblings? Loving? Conflicting? All of this plays into her relationship to you. As it is said; the apple does not fall far from the tree. After 61 years of living, fewer words hold a more empirical truth. Once you know you found the one, no, I mean really found THE ONE, then she will be permitted to know personal things about your life such as your financial worth. But until you know for absolute certainty, do not ever, ever, ever reveal that side of your life to anyone here. Tell a woman your worth too early and she is guaranteed to charm you like you have never been charmed. These women are masters at it. Your pension amount will put you in the top echelons of society. Be very, very careful who you choose to share it with. If you want good advice about these women, watch YouTube’s Coach Red Pill. His advice targets Western Women, but applies to women here just the same. Good luck to you. You’ll have great game over here if you play your cards right.
I met my gal on Pinalove and chatted for a while with her. We then decided to meet and I invited her for a trip around the islands. We met in Batangas harbour. Yes, she was there - late - but she was there :-). Since then (2 years ago) we are settled together in Puerto Princesa. Nice, small, clean city with a lot of restaurants and hotels and expats. My gal is paying much attention to me, cleaning, cooking (but so do I). Never asking for money. Her family is far, so.... I am feeling lucky.
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